For some time now, I have been on the lookout for a mentor. I came to the conclusion today that we are surrounded with mentors in life. You just need a simple and clear filter to separate them from the flock of sheep. Roosevelt was kind enough to have left one behind for us to use. Theodore's statement about “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better." Advice as relevant today, as in 1910. Not the ones who instruct you with answers, because they don't know what they don't know. Who are the equivalent of a driver, claiming to know how a car gets designed, manufactured and functions, just because they have a drivers licence and use the end product. The critics. The ones who know what the sport team is doing wrong when they are losing the home game. Yet never set foot on the field themselves.
"The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause;.." - Theodore Roosevelt
A mentor is the individual who knows and have done the research on how a car gets build and manufactured. Who are filled with questions about the process. It is because they have scratched the surface, the knowledge comes with more questions and less answers. It is the ones who add to the conversation in life in a good way. They are the ones who guide you with questions, who have the wisdom to know what they don't know. The ones who know what victory and defeat is about, because they seek to understand first. Or because they have the scars from their own battles.
"..who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” - Theodore Roosevelt
Spend as much time as you can with those who make you feel enthusiastic after a conversation. Who strive valiantly. And less with the cold and timid souls who suck the life out of the world.
How do you filter the critics from the doers in your life?